Ageism

My divorce has been finalized for three years, four months, and twelve days now. In that time, I've dated four different men.

There was Miguel who I met during my separation. I never gave him the time of day until I got my divorce completely finalized. Miguel was a latino guy around 45 years old who worked in the transportation industry. He was doing quite well for himself. I thought we had a good thing going until he decided to invite someone else over to his home to join us in bed. I couldn't believe he even tried me like that! Especially without discussing it with me to see if I would even be into that. I felt completely disrespected! I grabbed my things and left him and his bisexual hottie to do whatever it was they were into.

Weeks went by and my best friend Valerie introduced me to Jeffery. Val and I have been friends since college. She saw me through my marriage and was there for me through my divorce so she knows firsthand what I've been through over the years.

Anywho, Jeffery was a fine someone who seemed to have his shit together. He's a Vice President of Bank of America. Nice home. Owns a few cars. He was about 6’3”, deep chocolate skin, well-chiseled and could really hold a conversation. He too had been through a divorce. We dated for almost 7 months… until he asked me to move with him to Seattle, Washington. I couldn't just up and move the way he was planning to! I have a career of my own on the east coast. Plus I have a daughter who was about to turn 17 that I had to think about as well. So that's how that ended. We were still texting here and there for a while, just to check in. That ended too.

Then there was Arnold…